Orphan's Heart

Orphan's Heart

What causes an orphan’s heart?

A person with an orphan’s heart is not a child in a faraway country without a family. A person with an orphan’s heart is a person whose heart is emotionally and spiritually closed.

The orphan's heart shuts down when the person does not feel loved and accepted by their parents or the people who are in authority over them in the formative years of their life. When a child starts to close their heart, it is because they do not know anything else. A child is still learning and forming their understanding of the world around them.

Some people will allow their heart to close as they get older. When an adult closes their heart, it is a choice they make.

When a child believes they are not loved, or feels rejected from their earthly father, then they will struggle greatly with love from God, their Heavenly Father, as well. The more they feel rejected, the harder it is for them to forgive.

Satan took on an orphan’s heart when he was cast out of Heaven. He wasn't rejected by his Father, he was the one who did the rejecting, but he embraced an orphan’s heart just the same. Now his desire is to have everyone become an orphan as well. He knows that if he can keep people from knowing the true love of Father God, they will not be free.

A person that grows up in a loving, caring home can also have an orphan's heart. We have all thought at one time or another that we were not treated well and we did not receive the attention or affection we should have.

When a person has a love deficit that is not filled with appropriate love or affection their heart will stay closed. When the heart is closed to anyone, it is closed to everyone, even God. When a person's heart is closed, they will have a harder time hearing God. And worst of all, they do not believe God will even want to talk to them.

The heart of love is only proven by the persecution that it will endure. When we are not able to forgive the ones that hurt us, no matter what they did, we cannot walk in freedom. When we allow the pain and rejection of the past drag us down, it will destroy us.

The bondage of the past will drive us to seek unhealthy relationships or act in wrong ways. Read the article on "Counterfeit affections."

The only way to walk in peace and freedom is to reconcile with our past. We have to put all things into perspective by understanding the truth about who we are.

Real and true freedom can only happen when we are able to forgive the people that were not there for us.

Being angry and unforgiving is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. The other person is moving on with life and you are the one that is suffering because you cannot stop holding onto it.

Please read The Father's Blessing or watch the videos. I want you to receive this love from me to you, because you are worthy to be loved.

I love you,

Papa Ray

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Look inside an Orphan's Heart

An orphan heart or orphan spirit is characterized by a feeling of not belonging. It carries with it a deep-seated sense of not being accepted, valued, honored, or loved.

If a child does not acquire self-confidence from their parents, it is unlikely that they will ever possess self-confidence as adults. Conversely, if a child does gain it in childhood it is unlikely that anything in adulthood will discourage them.

M. Scott Peck

It causes one to live life as if he does not have a safe and secure place in the Father’s heart. He feels he has no place of affirmation, protection, comfort, belonging, or affection. Self-oriented, lonely and inwardly isolated, he has no one from whom to draw Godly inheritance.

Jack Frost

Let's take a deeper look at some of the ways people with an orphan’s heart act out, and what are some of the things to be aware of. Listed below are some of the things you may see in them:

  • They are very performance oriented
  • They would rather have rules than relationships
  • They have a fear-based theology rather than grace and mercy
  • They feel that God does not love them or care about them even though they believe the Bible to be truth
  • They find it very difficult to maintain close relationships
  • They hold on to offenses, and they have a conditional love
  • They blame others for things that are happening in their life and do not like to be responsible
  • They run away from problems
  • They reject authority
  • They do not trust others and feel they do not belong
  • They are full of envy, anger and want to control everything
  • They feel condemnation and shame
  • They desire the praise of man and want to be seen for what they do
  • They are very critical of other people

I am sure all of us can think of someone that fits in this category. And we can see some of the things that may be in our own heart as well.

Any person that is not comfortable with love is not healed; many people have been able to hide the truth from the world of how bad they are hurting inside. Some people are able to hide it in working. We say, "Look at them; they are working so hard and are doing so well."

The real question is, "Why are they working so hard? What are they trying to prove?" We see so many people trying to prove to their fathers that they are worthy by working harder. And they say, "That's just the way I am," when the real issue is that they want people to see them as worthy because of their hard work.

Sadly enough, there are far too many people that hide the pain in alcoholism, drugs, or sex. And then there are the ones that do not hide it at all; they just become depressed or aggressive and violent. They display their hurt with emotional outbursts of anger, sadness, and depression.

More and more, we are trying to fix people with medication when it really is a spiritual problem. A person with an orphan's heart cannot feel love; they only look for what they can get from a relationship. Understand they are not bad people that just want to do wrong.

The orphan spirit operates out of fear because they do not believe they will receive anything, so they have to take everything they can get. No matter how much they get, they still do not believe they will ever get enough to survive. So they need to take more and more, and still, they will never get enough.

The orphan spirit will not give unless they know they will get something in return. They cannot love because they have been so wounded that it is not safe to reach out to take a chance on love. Their fear of rejection is so great they feel it is better to live without love then to take a chance on being rejected or hurt again.

The orphan spirit will turn to anger as a way to protect themselves, anger is control. Anger is a way to control fear, when someone has fear, they will use anger to gain control again. Perfect love casts out fear, so in other words, perfect love casts out anger.

Also, keep in mind that just because a person knows a great deal about the scripture and can remember a great amount of verses and recite them at will does not make them a healed and whole person.

Just because a person is a great leader and people love them does not mean they are healed. I have seen so many very powerful leaders that got there because they were so driven by fear.

They climb the ladder to be seen and to prove their worth, the problem is when everyone sees what they have done and the pats on the back cease, they need to do something else to get their approval fix, just like drug addict.

Sadly so many great leaders in business and ministry have built their success at the cost of their family. Their family has paid the price of the father seeking worthiness out of performance and not the value of being a father.

It may be that your father was not present for you because he was broken. He may have looked fine on the outside, but had the heart of an orphan on the inside.

  • Did you suffer as your absent father became successful?
  • Did you feel like the second-hand doll that was left over?
  • Did you feel the abandonment as you watched them chase their dreams?

It is important to know that it was not your fault that they were broken and did not have anything to give you. You need to know that they were so empty that all they could do was run around looking for their next AFO (Affirmation from others).

You cannot take responsibility for the wrong actions of other people. If you want to walk in freedom you must understand that you did not cause them to turn away from you.

They made the choice because they did not have the emotional strength to deal with their own struggles. It was not your fault; you did not do anything to make them empty. They were empty before you met them, so it was not your fault.

  • Are you able to freely give without expecting anything in return?
  • Do you get angry when things do not work out the way you want them to?
  • Do you see things you do in the above list?
  • Are you afraid you will not get more?
  • Are you ready to walk in freedom?

If you see that you have an orphan’s heart and you want to be free, I want you to read "The Father's Blessing" and receive it in your heart. Then I want you to ask the Holy Spirit to show you the truth of who you were when these people hurt you.

It is important that you are able to see that what they said or did to you does not make you what they said about you. It is very important that you are able to put into perspective who you are, not what they said you are.

Once more, ask the Holy Spirit to show you who you are to Him. Ask Him to show you who the Heavenly Father thinks you are. If you have not asked Jesus into your heart, please read the Ultimate Blessing to find true peace.

I love you,

Papa Ray

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Counterfeit Affection

I have stood in as a father for thousands and thousands of people, pronouncing a father’s blessing over them and seeing their lives completely transformed. As I continue to travel and share this blessing I have come to a deeper understanding of other struggles.

One of those struggles is counterfeit affection, I believe many people may struggle with this and it could be a core problem in their life and they may not even know it.

Counterfeit affection is trying to find another way of filling a void in your life, in your heart. It is attempting to fill this empty place in a way that is not good. Counterfeit affection is destructive to your soul (mind, will, and emotions), and will leave you even more empty and broken.

Counterfeit affection is a death blow to finding success and fulfillment. If the foundation you build on is counterfeit, it cannot last. Even if you do manage to find success, it will only be temporary.

Almost all of our failures and successes stem from the roots we have. What was planted in your life will spring up and grow into a huge tree which will bear fruit based on the seed that was planted. Sounds simple enough, right?

The challenge is getting people to look at the root of the problem. Counterfeit affection, negative speech, worrying, and fear are only a few of the problems that have deep roots. The good news is when you start to break the strangle-hold this has on you, then you will be able to identify the roots of other problems you may have as well.

Counterfeit affection is deceiving. And it will keep you from finding real love and peace in life. As Roger Taylor shares in his book, Love Hunger—The Unseen Force, as well as Jack Frost's, Slavery to Sonship, this comes from an unmet love need.

Counterfeit affection is simply someone whose “'love tank” is empty and trying to get filled by someone else whose love tank may also not be full.

It is only by looking at the root of the problem that we will be able to deal with it. Most times we will have to go all the way back to our childhood to find the real problem. The reason most of us do not want to do this is because it brings up the painful memories that we are trying to hide.

If you have been feeling empty and broken and you cannot find real peace and joy, there is only one way to find it. That is by receiving the Ultimate Blessing, and when you do your life will never be the same again!

Click here to read, "The Ultimate Blessing."


Papa Ray Hurst

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The Ultimate Blessing

We believe the earthly father’s blessing is very important; however, there is a blessing that is so much greater!

No matter how right or wrong our father is here on earth, there is a Father in Heaven that loves you even more; He loves you with an endless love!

  • He is not a part time or absent Father.
  • He is never too busy or too tired to sit and listen.
  • He is never on vacation or off the clock.
  • He never turns His phone off.

He loves you so much He gave His Son, Jesus Christ, to suffer on a cross to pay the price of our sins so we can be free.

The beauty of all this is you do not have to be perfect; you do not have to rise to a standard before He accepts you as one of His children. He loves you and wants you just as you are; that's right, just as you are.

The greatest part is it's so easy to receive His blessings that He wants to just give them to you. He is not a harsh, angry old man in the sky waiting for you to mess up so He can throw lightning bolts at you.

Our Heavenly Father is a kind, gentle and loving Father that wants to give you the greatest gift, the Ultimate Blessing, Eternal Life. He wants you to be with Him in Heaven because He loves you so much.

Our Father, God in Heaven, tells us in His love letter to us that He gave His Son so that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

  • Do you want to feel peace and love in your heart?
  • Do you want to know the assurance that you are loved with an everlasting love?
  • Would you like to Invite Jesus Christ into your heart as your Lord and Savior?

Here is an easy-to-follow, step by step way to welcome Jesus Christ to fill your heart with peace and love. It is called the Romans Road because these verses are from the book of Romans.

The Romans Road of Salvation

  1. Everyone needs salvation because we have all sinned.
    Romans 3:10-12, and 23 As the Scriptures say, "No one is righteous-not even one. No one is truly wise; no one is seeking God. All have turned away; all have become useless. No one does good, not a single one." ... For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard.
  2. The price (or consequence) of sin is death.
    Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord.
  3. Jesus Christ died for our sins. He paid the price for our death.
    Romans 5:8 But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.
  4. We receive salvation and eternal life through faith in Jesus Christ.
    Romans 10:9-10, and 13 If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved, For "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."
  5. Salvation through Jesus Christ brings us into a relationship of peace with God.
    Romans 5:1 Therefore, since we have been made right in God's sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.
    Romans 8:1 So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.
    Romans 8:38-39 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow-not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below-indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

All verses are from the New Living Translation Bible.

Responding to the Romans Road

If you believe what you have read in these verses, you can respond by receiving God's free gift of salvation today. Here's how to take a personal journey down The Romans Road:

  1. Admit you are a sinner.
  2. Understand that as a sinner, you deserve death.
  3. Believe Jesus Christ died on the cross to save you from sin and death.
  4. Repent by turning from your old life of sin to a new life in Christ.
  5. Receive, through faith in Jesus Christ, His free gift of salvation.

If you would like to, you can pray this prayer.

Dear Father God in Heaven, I come to You in the name of Jesus Christ. I acknowledge to You that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the life I have lived; I need Your forgiveness.

I believe that Your only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, shed His precious blood on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am willing to turn from my sin right now.

You said in Your Holy Word, Romans 10:9 that if I confess with my mouth that Jesus is Lord (meaning above all things) and believe in my heart that (You) God raised (Him)Jesus from the dead, I will be saved.

Speak this part out loud

Right now I confess I want you, Jesus Christ, to be the Lord of my soul. With all my heart, I believe that God raised You from the dead, Jesus. This very moment I accept You, Jesus Christ, as my own personal Savior, and according to Your Word, right now I am saved.

I thank You, Jesus, for Your unlimited grace which has saved me from my sins. I thank You, Jesus, that Your grace never leads to bondage, but always leads to repentance. Therefore, Lord Jesus, help me to choose wisely, so my life will bring glory and honor to You alone and not to myself.

Thank you, Jesus, for dying for me and giving me eternal life. AMEN.

Welcome to the family of believers!

The next necessary steps

  • Read your Bible daily to be filled with the Word of God so you will not be deceived.
  • Find a good Bible believing church that is not afraid to speak the truth.
  • Get baptized with water.
  • Make all efforts to live in peace with everyone.

Live well, love strong, and be kind to all people.

I love you,
Papa Ray

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